Emotional Independence leads to Happiness

From the start of the day till its end, we are filled with so many emotions. The strange thing is that these emotions are variant and having a wide range but it is a matter of concern that almost 90 percent of them are infectious. You might be thinking that how emotions can be infectious? Let me clarify it with a simple example: If someone praises us in the morning or any time of the day we feel good and confident whereas if someone criticizes us we feel bad or jealous.

In the above example, it is shown that our emotions are dependent on others' emotions or views. The thing is that if emotions which are so transcendental, how they can be the person's self emotions? In fact, they are infected by other's views about that person. This state of an individual is known as emotional dependence when we are bounded to feel in a way that others want us to feel.

Emotions are generally of two categories: Positive emotions and negative emotions.

Positive emotions consist of love, empathy, compassion, care, share, etc. whereas negative emotions contain hatred, jealousy, low mood, frustration, irritability, depression, etc.

Do we ever feel inside the situation of the neutral point - where others' positive and negative emotions don't impact us? Do we ever feel just the same, neither overwhelmed on positive comments nor frustrated even in criticism. If yes! then Kudos! such an individual is rare to find & If not, then we need to work upon us in the same area if we really want to be emotionally independent and hence, can proceed forward on the path of sustainable happiness.

If we spend some time exploring self then we will definitely find out that deep inside, we all have only one emotion which is the emotion created by our soul - love, and peace. All other emotions are the creation of our mind and body to fulfill their needs which further leads to psychological, sociological, and other needs and they are contagious.

One has to keep oneself in a stable state with positive self-energy, not only for the self but for the whole system.

“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice."

[Stanford University commencement speech, 2005]”

― Steve Jobs